A Step By Step Guide To Writing A Eulogy For A Loved One

Posted on December 23, 2022 by Maine Cremation Care under Memorial
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Writing a eulogy for a loved one can be difficult, emotional, and overwhelming. A eulogy is a speech honoring the deceased and can be delivered by anyone who knew them best. It’s an opportunity to celebrate the life of the person who passed away and reflect on their impact. In this blog, Maine Cremation Care gives you a step-by-step guide to writing a eulogy for a loved one, as well as some helpful tips to keep in mind.

How To Write A Meaningful Eulogy 

Keep reading for a step-by-step guide to writing a meaningful and impactful eulogy. 

Do Your Research

Before you begin writing, you should do some research about the loved one for whom you are writing the eulogy. Talk to family members and friends, read old letters and cards, look through photos, and do anything else that will help you learn more about them and bring out special memories and stories that highlight who they were as an individual. You can also incorporate information from articles, books, or other sources if they pertain to your loved one’s life in any way. 

Get Organized

Once you’ve done your research, organize your thoughts into categories like childhood memories, professional accomplishments, favorite hobbies, and interests so that you can easily reference them later on when crafting your speech or essay. You may even choose to write down everything in bullet points so that it’s easy to refer back to when crafting your eulogy. 

Craft Your Eulogy

Now comes the task of actually putting your words together into something cohesive and meaningful. This is where having all of your notes from earlier will come in handy! Think about what qualities or characteristics made them unique, and pick out anecdotes that are both humorous and touching. Focus on using clear language, keep the tone appropriate for both lighthearted reminiscences as well as somber reflections, and be sure to include not only what they did during their life but also how they touched those around them. Your goal is to pay tribute to your loved one’s legacy in a way that is honest but respectful toward their memory. 

Edit Your Eulogy

Once you have written down all the thoughts you want to be included in your eulogy it’s time for the editing process. Read through your eulogy out loud and make sure there are no grammar mistakes or awkward phrasing, as this will help ensure that when delivering it verbally nothing gets lost in translation. You may also want to consider having someone else read it out loud to you to make sure you’re happy with the final product before giving your speech at the funeral service or memorial event. 

Man giving a eulogy at a serviceOther Helpful Tips For Writing A Eulogy

We’ve added some helpful tips to help you through the process of writing a purposeful eulogy for your loved one.  

Reflect On Memories 

The best way to add a personal touch to your eulogy is by reflecting on specific memories of your loved one. This will help you capture the essence of your loved one in your eulogy while also providing some direction as you begin writing. Many people share a favorite story or memory of their loved one that is humorous but also reflects on their character. 

Write With Emotion 

When writing a eulogy it’s important to focus on emotions rather than facts. Create vivid images that evoke emotion and connect with the audience’s own experiences and memories of your loved one. Incorporate stories that highlight their unique traits or moments that speak to how they made an impact on those around them. It’s also important to remain positive while still acknowledging sadness over their passing.  

Get Feedback

After you have written your eulogy, it’s important to get feedback from family members or close friends who knew the deceased well before delivering it publicly at a memorial service or funeral gathering. This will ensure that nothing was left out or overlooked and allow other loved ones to remember their own experiences with the loved one being honored. This can add depth and emotionality to your speech or essay, and serve as a way for others to be involved in the process if they so choose. 

Writing a eulogy can be a daunting task, but remembering that it is an opportunity to celebrate the life of your loved one should make it easier. Reflecting on all of your loved one’s wonderful qualities can provide some small solace during this difficult time of mourning. Taking time to research, think about memories, focus on emotions, and edit carefully will help create a meaningful speech that honors your loved one properly without feeling overwhelmed. 


If you are ever feeling stuck as you write, take breaks or talk about what you’re trying to say with friends or family members. Sometimes hearing something out loud helps to get past writer’s block. 


Using these tips, you can craft the perfect tribute that honors their memory while providing comfort and peace of mind to those who were close to them throughout their life. 

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